Models for "Mary" with young children?

One of the enduring issues in our marriage is that both Marialice and I are both firmly entrenched in the "Martha" side of the "Mary - Martha" distinction. We have a hard time determining how much this is a function of our culture, our stage in life (the valley of the shadow of diapers), or our essential character. But both of us struggle mightily to spend quality time in reflection and silence, in deep communication with each other and with our lord. Even though this depth of connection is what we yearn for, we are hugely prone to fill our lives with Marthalike business - excluding what we value most.

"Martha, Martha," the Lord answered, "you are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her." Luke 10:38-42

So this is the question that emerges - especially Marialice's: Where are the models for a Mary-like character when three small children must be cared, a house managed, and home school taught? Who would you point to as someone who exemplifies this character in the midst of the stage of life? What are the disciplines and strategies they have used? Comments welcome.