Marriage Blog - 10 years ago

This year we are passing a whole set of 10 year anniversaries, culminating with ten year's of marriage next May. It is great to reflect on that luminous time when possibilities started growing, blooming, dawning into the actuality of reality. There was an emotional roller coaster in those days - as the dream that had died slowly came back to look me in the face, smile and say "yes" I had been in Spain for two years working with Grupos Biblicos Universitarios (International Fellowship of Evanglelical Students) and had essentially put the idea of a future with Marialice out of my mind. However the counsel of a wise friend encouraged me to look for a future, to push for an definitive answer rather than simply let distance and indifference provide a de-facto one. He said "Ministry will wait, a woman won't" (Words Marialice has loved ever since). So ten years ago I returned from Spain, knowing that whatever dream and friendship we had was moving forward. We enjoyed the reunion, we enjoyed the slow and easy converstaion done without the pressure of phone bills, we enjoyed the touch of growing dreams. And within 6 weeks I was able to say "Marialice - it's not a matter of if, but of when I'm going to ask you to be my wife" As a friend said yesterday, "You've been with her ever since!"